Best Friends

Discussion in 'General Discussion' started by RightHand, Nov 15, 2016.

  1. RightHand

    RightHand Been There, Done That RIP 4/15/21 Moderator Moderator Emeritus Founding Member

    Do you have a best friend? You know the kind I mean; the one who is there to support you when you're down and out, tells you you're not the failure you feel you are; the one who asks for nothing in return; the one who is privy to your deepest secrets, the things you would tell no one else in the world; the one who tells you how much you are loved when you feel the most unlovable; the one with whom you can be totally honest without fear; the one who takes your tears as their own and shares your laughter with the same joy you feel. Mere words are not adequate to express what it means to have a friend like that. I treasure mine. I hope you treasure yours too
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  2. Tevin

    Tevin Monkey+++

    If anyone says their spouse/significant other is their "best friend" I'm going to throw up. :blah:

    Saying your wife/husband/girlfriend/boyfriend is your bestie so drippy and trite. It devalues the meaning of both friendship and romantic relationships.

    To answer the question, yes, I've known my best buddy since we were teenagers. I never get tired of that guy!
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  3. RightHand

    RightHand Been There, Done That RIP 4/15/21 Moderator Moderator Emeritus Founding Member

    I disagree Tevin. I can't imagine anything better than my spouse being my best friend. Not every married couple attains that level of friendship and intimacy but for those who do, they are most fortunate indeed
  4. BTPost

    BTPost Stumpy Old Fart Snow Monkey Moderator

    Ok.... I will NOT Say that AlaskaChick is my BEST FRIEND, Lover, and has been for the last 50 Years...
    But I WILL Write it, even if it does cause others to lose their Lunch.... or Whatever...
  5. Motomom34

    Motomom34 Monkey+++

    Geesh @Tevin, I was going to say was best friend...... I think your SO can be your BF without devaluing anything.
    I dedicated my life to my family. I do not have a best friend as @RightHand stated. I do have people in my life that I call friends but no one that close.
    Last edited: Nov 16, 2016
  6. Pax Mentis

    Pax Mentis Philosopher King |RIP 11-4-2017

    Then start puking Buttercup...try not to get any on anyone else. Mine was my best friend for longer than she was my wife and in the 2 years since she has been gone, my dog is just not a good substitute.

    EDIT: That was in the spur of the moment of my irritation at your assholish statement, but I would also now like to express my sympathy for one who just doesn't get how good a long term marriage relationship can be. Ideally a marriage is the two of you against the world...but it far too often these days it ends up him against her with the need for a "bestie" outside to blow off steam about how hard he/she is to live with.
    Last edited: Nov 15, 2016
  7. Gator 45/70

    Gator 45/70 Monkey+++

    Only good friends cook for their good friends, Guess who's coming to supper?
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  8. techsar

    techsar Monkey+++

    I have to agree with several of the other wife is the only one that comes even close to RH's definition of "best" friend, and to state otherwise would be an extreme, insult to the sanctity of our marriage. Ican't think of anyone I would rather share a secret with or to lean on/be leaned on in trying times.
    Prior to being married I had close friends, but not to the depths my wife and I enjoy.
  9. Ura-Ki

    Ura-Ki Grudge Monkey

    I think the term "Best" friend is a way to express different needs we have in our lives for different reasons, from different people! My wife and I ARE best friends, and while we have not been married all that long, every day we find we enjoy each other more and more. Best friends is an accurate term for how we feel about each other. My Dogs are also my best furry friends, and a buddy of mine and I have known each other since Kindercollage I would say Besties is also accurate. Hell, My folks and before they passed, My Grand Parents, as well as a Cousin or three, and Uncles and Aunts qualify in there as well! SO yea, I have Best Friends!
  10. VHestin

    VHestin Farm Chick

    Best friends are extremely important. Having someone in your corner that will always be there for you, regardless of other people in your lives is priceless.
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  11. Sgt Nambu

    Sgt Nambu RIP 4/19/2018

    Well, I lost my best friend the day before Christmas, 7yrs ago. My mom passed a few days before him.
    My beloved Bull Mastiff, Lilly, went a year ago. I miss them all!

    So that leaves my wife, of 46yrs, and she's a great pal! One in a million, gal!

    Please! No barfing at my wife! :cautious:
  12. chelloveck

    chelloveck Diabolus Causidicus

    No. It's me against the world. I've learned to become self sufficient and self reliant: It doesn't mean that I'm a misanthrope, or don't enjoy the company of others, I just don't cultivate "best friends".

    Edit: I no longer cultivate imaginary "best friends" either. ;)
    Last edited: Nov 16, 2016
  13. Tempstar

    Tempstar Old and crochety Site Supporter+

    Heh. Ain't touching this one.
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  14. Thunder5Ranch

    Thunder5Ranch Monkey+++

    Found that in life you can trust only one person with everything, and that is yourself. Friends, even good friends sure but only so far. Marriage is no different than any other contract IMO and after my first one, I learned to carefully negotiate the terms of that contract for the second one. Been my experience anything you divulge can and will be used against you at some point.
  15. mysterymet

    mysterymet Monkey+++

    My husband is my best friend. We were friends before we ever started dating. I cannot imagine having another best friend. There is no other person in my life who even comes close...
  16. Tevin

    Tevin Monkey+++

    Some of the replies to this topic sound like the lyrics to a Justin Bieber song.
  17. Gator 45/70

    Gator 45/70 Monkey+++

    I'll be your friend Chello old buddy?
  18. VHestin

    VHestin Farm Chick

    Now that I'm more awake, I can add to my last post. I don't have a best friend anymore, but I had one when I really needed it. Now I have a few good friends that I can go to for support and free coffee when I need to, for different things. One of the important things to remember is that support is not the same thing as agreeing with you on everything. For me, I just want people who have manners and can still be polite/respectful when you disagree on something.
  19. Meat

    Meat Monkey+++

    No. [afro]
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  20. Pax Mentis

    Pax Mentis Philosopher King |RIP 11-4-2017

    A favorite of yours?
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