A few weeks ago, not more than 10 miles from where I live and play, a young woman was exiting the interstate late in the evening. On the exit there was a semi pulled over and the driver was flagging her down. She stopped, he grabbed her, pulled her into the cab of his truck, raped her, then pulled her into the surrounding woods, tied her to a tree and left her in the freezing temperature. After he left, her screams eventually attracted attention and, luckily, she was discovered. The perpetrator was caught this week and he is in custody. Earlier this week there was a case where a person with vehicular trouble was passed, over and over, and no one stopped to help which led the local news to decry the absence of caring strangers. These two events have been preying on my mind and I got to thinking about how often we suspend our common sense, our gut instincts, in favor of being a 'good neighbor.' Some of you may be aware that for many years, from the mid-1970 thru mid 1990s, I was a volunteer crisis counselor for a sexual assault center. Middle of the night calls to local emergency rooms was the norm, sometimes a couple times a week (We were 72 hrs on, 72 hrs off). I'm not an expert, but I do some knowledge and a lot of experience. One of the things I did was to conduct safety training programs. I did a series of programs in the local grammer school, the high school, in womens groups, and even one for a local police department. If there is an interest on the SM forum, I will put together some safety strageties which I can post in a series. Many people feel that if you are armed with a weapon, you can protect yourself but that may not be the case. Also, strageties differ men and women, children and adults. Surviving sexual assault transcends good times and SFTF times, gender, wealth, and just about anything else you may assume. If you feel this information may be of value to our SM community, let me know. Alternately, if anyone would like information more personally, I can email.